by Theresa Conti
“I cannot know what the future will bring. My best hope is every bit as likely to occur as my worst fears, so I have no reason to give more weight to my negative assumptions.”
–Courage to Change, p. 169
The quote above brings me much peace and comfort. When my mind is fearful and filled with worry, it’s impossible to feel happy and content.
Thinking that the future will be like the past – or grasping on to positive experiences, because we are afraid to let them go, keeps us stuck in a never-ending cycle of fear and negativity.
While we can use our past experiences as stepping stones to our personal and spiritual growth by reflecting on what we’ve learned, and to assess our likes and dislikes and what we may wish to change, we must then let them go in order to create a new and healthy future.
Letting go doesn’t mean that we deny the hurts and disappointments we’ve experienced. It’s important that we honor and heal them, and when ready, to acknowledge the blessings they’ve provided. For example, perhaps a difficult situation has led to better self-care, greater clarity, or a change in our own behavior. We can also learn to see real threats more clearly and develop inner resources to address them.
The same holds true for our joyful experiences. We can use them as guiding lights to inform our future choices, to steer us in the direction of our dreams, and use them as catalysts to deepen our sense of love, well-being, and appreciation; but we must also let go of clinging to them in order to welcome new experiences.
QUESTIONS TO PONDER:
What have you been holding on to – “good” or “bad”
that might be holding you back from a new experience? What is the pay-off for holding on?
What would happen if you let go?
How will you benefit by releasing it?
With love, Theresa