by Theresa Conti
How would your life be different if you acknowledged your fears, let them be, and moved in the direction of your dreams?
Change is painful, but not as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.” – Many Hale
All change involves a loss and letting go of what’s familiar. It takes courage, and a leap of faith, to step out into unchartered territory. Whether it’s a change of job, relationship, attitude or location, change can be scary. Yet, it also brings us alive, renews our energy, provides us with new experiences and opportunities for our personal and spiritual growth.
I recently returned to Italy (one week ago), after being in the United States for nearly two years! It was tough. I struggled with the decision of when and if to move, as my son is in Washington State, and my being there provided an opportunity for us to see each other more frequently, and bond in a deeper way. I love my son dearly. However, the truth is that having lived in the Seattle area for 25-years, I no longer feel a sense of energy living there. While I loved being closer to my son, and already miss him immensely, Trieste feels like home.
Often, small steps help us to make the changes we desire. Looking too far ahead – or making decisions that feel too big in the moment – can keep us feeling paralyzed, as the brain’s negativity bias can conjure up images that frighten us and keep us stuck. Building inner strengths, like confidence, courage and resilience, and taking small, manageable steps, are things we can do to help ourselves move forward with greater trust and ease.
So, while I lived in Trieste for four and one-half years before returning to the US for what was supposed to be a 3-month visit (but turned into nearly two years!), have friends here, and know the area, returning to Trieste also involved change, and the sense of loss that accompanies it. In my case, the loss is being in close proximity to my son.
But I, like you, can always choose to change again! For me, that means being here now, enjoying life, staying in contact with my son, and leaving my options open for where to live in the future. Nothing is cast in stone. In the meantime, I look forward to taking long walks along the sea, enjoying aperitivi with friends, while staying in tune with my needs, and trusting my ability to do the next right thing!
Questions to ponder:
What change or changes do you wish to make?
What’s calling you?
What’s holding you back?
What’s one small, manageable step that you can take to move forward?